The key to getting a girl to like you lies in how well you can hold up a conversation.  At least, that’s the case in the very beginning, which, happens to be the most important part of the interaction.  If you can’t make it past the first few minutes of talking, how can you expect to get a girl to date you?  

 

The truth is not that many guys know how to talk to girls because they don’t understand them.  They think they do, but what they’re really doing is projecting their own wants or needs onto a girl, and assuming that the girl will respond in a positive way.  In reality, girls respond to very different things than guys. When it comes to topics to talk about with a girl, you may have to broaden your horizons a bit.  

 

Talking to women isn’t difficult per se, it’s just different than talking to your friends or your family members.  Conversation topics are a big part of the picture, but the way you carry yourself in conversation is just as important.  Confidence and being able to think on your feet are crucial when you’re talking to a woman. You have to be able to blend both an interesting perspective with genuineness.  This is basically the recipe for a good conversation.

 

Girls are great at sniffing out incongruity, or falseness, so being interesting isn’t enough.  You have to mean what you say, and make sure that thoughts and feelings are aligned with who you are.

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How To Talk To Girls: Develop The Right Mindset

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There is no step-by-step process for talking to girls and anyone who tells you there is, is full of it. It’s more of a mentality.  It’s a state-of-mind in which you are confident and focused but also relaxed, and able to shift from one topic to another.  There are some topics to discuss with a girl if you want the interaction to go a certain way, but you have to bring them up casually, and can’t just go right for it.  This will make you seem too eager, and will probably scare her away.

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There are a lot of things you can talk about with a girl, and the things you bring up will shape her initial view of you, which is crucial for whatever you’re hoping for in the interaction.  Some topics you might think about discussing are:

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• Your ambitions

• Sexual tastes

• Interesting stories

• Her interests (Don;t underestimate the importance of this one)

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The key is to make it seem like these things are coming up casually, and not like you’re intentionally bringing them up in order to get something out of her.  It sounds a lot harder than it really is, but with a little practice, you’ll be able to steer conversations any way you like.

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Talking To Women Should Be Fun

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If you think that all women want to talk about is shoes, clothing, and make-up, you’re sorely mistaken. Just because you’re a guy and she’s a girl doesn’t mean you won’t have some overlapping interests.  Probe a little in the beginning, see what she’s into. You might find she’s more unique than you think.

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Girls don’t always reflect their interests with their outward appearance. You might come across a ten who can’t get enough of Dr. Who, or a nine who’s a professional guitar player.  Women are full of surprises, but if you go into the conversation assuming it’ll be boring, they won’t share them with you.

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Assume that all women have something incredible about them. Ask questions, try and get her to tell you who she really is. Once she starts talking, you won’t be able to get her to stop.  Everyone likes talking about themselves, and if you can get her started, you’ll be in good shape for the rest of the night.​